What I want for you, mama

Hi friends!

For those who don't know me, I'm Surabhi - a physiotherapist, coach, and a non-hardcore athlete. I’m also a proud mom of 2, wife, daughter, sister, and friend.

When I first became a mom, the transition really rocked me. My entire identity felt lost.

I was frustrated after experiencing diastasis recti, prolapse and incontinence, and feared making things worse with exercise. I was anxious about my recovery, and the constant sleep-deprivation only added to the stress. Don’t get me wrong - I loved my dear daughter, and found so much joy in the baby snuggles, giggles and simple moments. However, a part of me was resentful that my husband could get a break by going to work, while I was stuck at home doing boring rehab exercises and singing Twinkle Twinkle for the 100th time (side note: both those things have grown on me).

My entire life had changed and my body had changed.

People would tell me, “It’ll get better” but what I really needed to hear then was, “This is really hard, and you are doing amazing.”

What I really needed to know wasn’t my diagnosis, it was, "This is what you are still able to do. These are the things you need to do so you can get back to all the other things you love." What I needed to hear was, “Be patient with yourself. Postpartum recovery takes time.”

I was so used to helping my patients through their injuries, and when I became a patient myself, I found myself disappointed in the care and education I received. I had to learn so much for myself.

I want you to know that being a mom doesn't mean you have to give up on who you are. 💜 Even if you have injuries, and your body feels different, know that you are not your diagnosis. It is possible to feel strong and confident in your postpartum body. I know it can be slow and very frustrating.

I want to encourage you to show up for yourself. Take the time for your own needs - to exercise, to take breaks, to enjoy some quiet time. It’s not always easy, but taking care of yourself is ALWAYS worth it!

Lots of love,

Surabhi